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Thanksgiving Hostess Gifts That Are Not Another Bottle of Wine

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The best Thanksgiving hostess gifts are small things the host can enjoy after the holiday, not something she has to deal with on Thursday. Think breakfast for Friday morning, a jar of good salt, a pretty tea towel or a box of cocoa. By the time you ring the bell she has been cooking since Tuesday, so a gift that needs the oven, the fridge, a vase or a minute of her attention is one more job. Bring one finished thing, hand it over, and tell her it is for later.

Farmhouse kitchen counter the evening before Thanksgiving with a small brown-paper-wrapped gift tied with twine, a folded fall tea towel, a jar of flaky salt and a lit lamp, a pie cooling in the background

Styling idea: a small, finished gift that can sit on the counter until Friday. Not the linked products.

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9 Thanksgiving hostess gifts that are not another bottle of wine

Each one keeps on a shelf or in a cupboard, so the host can open it Friday or next week. Cost is shown as $ (least) to $$$ (most).

1. Real maple syrup for Friday morning

If you only pick one idea from this page, make it breakfast. A Thanksgiving host does not want to cook again the next day, and nobody wants turkey for breakfast. This Maple Grove Farms two-pack (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. is two 12.5 ounce bottles of pure Grade A maple syrup, which is plenty for a stack of pancakes and then some. Add a bag of buttermilk pancake mix from the grocery store and you have handed her the whole breakfast. $

Say it out loud when you hand it over: “This is for tomorrow morning.” That one sentence tells her she does not have to serve it or find room for it tonight.

Farmhouse breakfast table the morning after Thanksgiving with two glass bottles of dark maple syrup beside a bag of pancake mix, a stack of pancakes, mugs of coffee and a lit lamp by the window
Styling idea: the morning-after breakfast, syrup and pancake mix. Not the linked product.

2. Flaky sea salt for the cook

Hosting uses up the basics, and good salt is something people rarely buy for themselves. Maldon sea salt flakes (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. come in an 8.5 ounce box of soft pyramid-shaped flakes that crunch on roasted vegetables, a sliced tomato or the top of a cookie. $

Lifehacker also suggests fancy salt for a host, and it pairs well with a small wooden dish if you want it to look like more of a present.

Farmhouse kitchen counter with a small wooden dish of flaky sea salt flakes, a cardboard salt box tied with twine beside a folded linen tea towel, roasted vegetables on a sheet pan and a lit lamp
Styling idea: flaky finishing salt in a small wooden dish. Not the linked product.

3. A tea sampler she can pick from

If you do not know whether she drinks coffee, tea is the safer bet. The Taylors of Harrogate assorted tea sampler (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. has 48 tea bags, six each of eight flavors, and every bag is individually wrapped. She can try a different one each evening after the guests go home. $

Tuck in a note that says “for a quiet cup on Friday” and it becomes a gift about her rest, not the meal.

4. A box of hot cocoa

A box of cocoa is a gift that lasts well past the holiday and suits a house with kids. This gourmet hot chocolate gift set (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. has nine single-serve packets in flavors like gingerbread cookie, snickerdoodle, toasted marshmallow and chocolate cherry, in gift packaging that slips into a bag. $$

It is a good pick for Friendsgiving, too, when the host is a friend who would love a mug of something warm after a long day on her feet.

5. Hand cream for hands that washed all day

Anyone who cooks a big dinner washes her hands over and over, and by Thursday night they are dry. O’Keeffe’s Working Hands (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. comes in a 3.4 ounce jar, and it is unscented, which matters because scent is personal. $

It is also tiny, so it slips into a coat pocket and does not need a bag.

6. Fall tea towels

You can never have too many kitchen towels, and a seasonal pair feels a little too frivolous to buy for yourself. The Urban Villa harvest leaves towels (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. are a set of six, 20 by 30 inches, in a fall leaf print, and they go in the washing machine. $$

Split the set into a few gifts or keep some for yourself. Wrap one around another gift from this list, like the salt or the jar of cocoa, and the towel is the ribbon.

Farmhouse kitchen table with a folded pumpkin-print tea towel, a stack of cloth napkins in orange and green, a small jar of salt and a lit candle in a glass jar, a pie on a cooling rack behind
Styling idea: fall towels and napkins, folded and ready to give. Not the linked products.

7. Cloth napkins in fall colors

Tableware is what people want to use the week of Thanksgiving, and a host with a lovely table appreciates napkins that are not paper. Aunt Martha’s fall dinner napkins (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. come as a set of four, 20 inches square, in orange, green, yellow and purple, hemmed on all four sides and machine washable. $

They work for Christmas dinner, too, since the colors are warm and not strictly pumpkin.

8. A vanilla candle for after the guests leave

A candle is the classic cozy gift, with one catch: scent is personal, and a strong one can give some people a headache. Plain vanilla is a safer bet than most. The 96NORTH Madagascar vanilla candle (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. is a large three-wick soy jar that arrives in a gift box. $$

Skip the pumpkin spice candle unless you know she loves it. A host who has smelled roasting turkey for two days may want something softer.

9. A cheese board set for the host who entertains

This is the bigger gift, for a host you know well or an in-law’s home where you want to make an impression. The SMIRLY bamboo set (opens Amazon in a new tab)As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Full disclosure. comes with serving accessories, grooves for bread and cookies and a matching bamboo fruit tray, all in a decorative box. $$$

It will get used all through December. Only bring it if the host has room to store it, and do not expect her to put it out that night.

Bamboo cheese board with a knife and small serving pieces on a farmhouse dining table, wedges of cheese, crackers and grapes, a decorative gift box beside it and a lit candle in the background
Styling idea: a cheese board set on the dining table, in its gift box. Not the linked product.

What should you bring to Thanksgiving dinner?

Bring one small, finished thing, and tell the host it is for later. Pick from this table by what you know about her.

If the host…Give herWhy it works
Is tired of cookingReal maple syrupFriday breakfast is handled
Loves to cookFlaky sea saltA gourmet basic she will use all winter
Does not drink coffeeTea samplerEasy to pick from, no wrong flavor
Has kids at homeHot cocoa setEveryone gets a mug
Is on her feet all dayHand creamDry hands get a fix
Loves a pretty kitchenFall tea towels and napkinsUsed before the holidays are over
Hosts all winterCheese board setA real serving piece for December

If you were asked to bring a dish, that dish is your contribution. A gift on top is a kindness, not a requirement.

Do you have to bring a hostess gift to Thanksgiving?

No, but it is a nice thing to do. In Food Network’s host gift guide, Lizzie Post of the Emily Post Institute says a host gift is not a must-do, and that it should be a light lift. A guest who arrives with something small and finished takes a little of the load off, and a guest who arrives with a chore adds to it. If you are staying overnight or it is your first visit, a gift is more expected. For family you see every year, a thank-you note counts, too.

How much should you spend on a Thanksgiving hostess gift?

Whatever fits your budget. Emily Post’s guidance is that your gift should be within your means, and the pieces on this list sit in the lower tiers on purpose. Pick the $ items for a coworker’s Friendsgiving or a neighbor, and the $$ ones for close friends or in-laws. The $$$ board is for the person who has hosted you for years. If the whole family is gifting the same host, pool the money for one real gift instead of five candles.

Is wine a good hostess gift?

It is fine, and no one will be upset, but it is the safest and most forgettable choice. A bottle brought to dinner is usually shared with the table, so the host may open it that night. Unless you know her taste, pair the bottle with something she keeps. If she does not drink, sparkling apple cider is a friendly swap. That is why the picks above are things she can put away, not things that go on the table.

What should you not bring to Thanksgiving?

Anything that needs the oven, the fridge, a vase or attention that night.

  • Flowers without a vase. If you bring them, bring them already arranged in a jar or small vase, or send them the day after.
  • A dish that needs oven time or reheating. Unless she asked for it, every warm dish is a scheduling problem.
  • A dessert when dessert is covered. Ask first. Two pumpkin pies is a story that gets told for years.
  • Homemade food without a label. A card listing nuts, dairy or gluten saves a scramble. This covers cookies and baking, too.
  • Strong scents. Perfumes and heavy candles are risky when you do not know her.
  • Anything with a setup. A gadget she has to learn on Thanksgiving is a job, not a gift.

What should you bring to Friendsgiving or to your in-laws?

For Friendsgiving, fill gaps instead of shelves: the cocoa set, a bottle of apple cider, a candle or a set of glasses. Hosts are often cooking their first big meal in a small kitchen. For your in-laws, go a step up: the cheese board set or the syrup and pancake mix, and a note of gratitude on the card. For family, tie the gift to the house, like towels or the breakfast.

What is the 5 gift rule?

It is a way some parents limit holiday gifts for kids: something to want, something to need, something to wear and something to read. It has nothing to do with hostess gifts. For a host, one small thing is plenty.

What to buy

All nine in one place. Prices change, so check the listing before you order. Cost: $ is the least, $$$ the most.

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